Growing up was damn fun (sorry if yours wasn’t), we get a lot of love from people who owe us nothing. We get love from family members, friends of our parents, neighbours, teachers, nannies etc. The best of the loves we get while growing up was that from our parents. It was easy to get love then. After all, a child only knows how to get plenty and give little. As a child, the best you give back when showed love is to smile back, which is always cute. But, we get to a stage in life when we ought to give more than we get carelessly, to remain happy. We eventually grow past the time of always getting love from people, now we have to give back to the people. Most people find their first love in their tender age (14-18), when they are still teenagers. Alas! It doesn’t last as it promised to when it began. But why?
Apparently, we all have loved someone in the past (maybe still love them), someone we thought we’d be with for life. We love at very tender age, we knew not what love really entail but we did love anyways. It’s usually like heaven ordained, we struggle less for it (for most people), it mostly starts like a miracle. Some didn’t have to go through the stress of wooing or impressing their first love, it begins by setting eyes on each other alone. Some found theirs in a classroom in high school. Others found theirs in their neighborhood where they play. Less energy is needed to recognize your first love, it’s happens like a magic, you get attracted to each other by just seeing each other.
It’s a rose without a torn when it begins. You will perceive a fragrance and it will seem it’s from the garden of Eden, just by locking hands with your first love. It’s every sweet feeling you call it when you find that special someone at first. You will realize that a moment can not go without you thinking about them, and vice versa. First love when found, both parties seem to love equally, you’ll love each other dearly and fearlessly (whereas you should have fears). You’ll see her as flawless and so she shall see you (but no one is flawless). You’ll share a bound that seem so strong enough to waddle through a tornado without breaking. You feel like you can break all barriers with your partner and still breakthrough. That’s how first love makes you feel.
Alas! It doesn’t last as much as it promised to. You thought nothing could break your bound with them but, soon enough, you realized you were wrong. To love at first is easy and sensational but it doesn’t last forever (except for few cases) for some reasons. We grew up getting more loves than we’re giving and we get used to that because it was the way we were wired. To love and sustain love for as long as we wish requires a lot of sacrifices. We must give much and expect lesser. Many first lovers failed because they gave less and expected much more. Most first lovers fails because they lack the experience and the patience it requires to keep a relationship. First love, is usually a stepping stone to get a first true love as many that has gone past that phase would agree with me.
To say the least, first love do not always last as we wish because of inexperience and willingness to get more than we give. Although, we have seen some unique cases where first lovers started from childhood and last forever. We must not let our past mistakes in our previous relationship hunt us down. We must learn from the past and apply the lessons learnt to get a better relationship.